William Beteet 在Quora上的回答

1.她/他不愛(ài)你的話沒(méi)關(guān)系。曾經(jīng)有個(gè)叫狄安娜的姑娘，我以為會(huì)跟她過(guò)一輩子。為了她我戒了煙，為她寫(xiě)劇本，練出一身肌肉。我向她求愛(ài)數(shù)次都被拒絕，但是無(wú)所謂。我并沒(méi)有失敗，因?yàn)閻?ài)情不是努力就能獲得的。

2.所謂的滿(mǎn)足只是謊言。這世上沒(méi)有什么事做成了之后，你會(huì)徹底滿(mǎn)足從此無(wú)欲無(wú)求。要把滿(mǎn)足當(dāng)成營(yíng)養(yǎng)，每天注意充實(shí)自我才能感受生命的活力。

3.要實(shí)現(xiàn)夢(mèng)想就要忍受屈辱。公開(kāi)講話時(shí)丟人現(xiàn)眼，把小說(shuō)寄出去后被改得面目全非，打出上千個(gè)推銷(xiāo)電話。不要活在別人的想法里，重點(diǎn)在自己的主要目標(biāo)，要記住向上攀登時(shí)沒(méi)人能保持光鮮形象。

4.愛(ài)上痛苦。我在哥本哈根時(shí)告訴一個(gè)意大利人說(shuō)，快樂(lè)的秘訣就是愛(ài)上痛苦。如果能做到，變強(qiáng)大的艱辛旅途就不再是折磨，你會(huì)享受整個(gè)過(guò)程。

5.要懂得堅(jiān)守。為了達(dá)到目標(biāo)，就要接受很多當(dāng)前不需要的東西。我認(rèn)真對(duì)待食物，因?yàn)閷?duì)維持身體健康很重要。我可以接受不能像以前一樣經(jīng)常出門(mén)玩，因?yàn)榫毩?xí)深蹲起立更重要。實(shí)施前就想清楚你愿意付出的代價(jià)，等到真正妥協(xié)時(shí)就不會(huì)很糾結(jié)。

6.刺激是很膚淺的感覺(jué)。我曾在全球各地旅行，路上遇到過(guò)形形色色的人們。為了找刺激旅行幾個(gè)月的人聽(tīng)起來(lái)都差不多。如果最終目標(biāo)就是尋求刺激，根本沒(méi)必要，很快就會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)沒(méi)什么新鮮感。

7.孤獨(dú)來(lái)自?xún)?nèi)心。我一個(gè)人在健身房訓(xùn)練不會(huì)感覺(jué)孤單，但是去參加派對(duì)當(dāng)壁花會(huì)覺(jué)得孤獨(dú)。為什么？因?yàn)槭欠窆陋?dú)只看當(dāng)下你是否參與其中。所以如果你感覺(jué)孤獨(dú)，可以試著關(guān)上電腦做點(diǎn)開(kāi)心的事，你會(huì)重新開(kāi)始享受生活。

8.有時(shí)犧牲會(huì)賦予事物意義。我曾連續(xù)325天練習(xí)深蹲起立，為之錯(cuò)過(guò)了家庭聚會(huì)，跟朋友出門(mén)，約會(huì)，還有一次去巴西、阿根廷和秘魯?shù)穆眯?，但正因?yàn)殄e(cuò)過(guò)了那么多，我在深蹲練習(xí)上獲得的成功意義更加重大。所以不要把練習(xí)深蹲當(dāng)沉沒(méi)成本，要看成讓你做的事情更有意義的機(jī)會(huì)。 （財(cái)富中文網(wǎng)）

譯者：馮豐

審校：夏林

Answer by William Beteet on Quora.

1. She/He Doesn’t Love You and That’s OK – There was a girl named Tianna, and I thought I was destined to be with her. I quit smoking for her, wrote screenplays for her, put on a ton of muscle for her — I professed my love to her a couple times and was rejected — and that’s OK. I didn’t fail because love isn’t something to achieve.

2. Fulfillment Is a Lie – You will never achieve a success so great that you will no longer feel the need to do something to feel whole. You must treat fulfillment like nutrition, and do something enriching everyday in order to feel alive.

3. You Need to Experience Shame to Achieve Your Dreams – Bomb at an open mic, send your novel to someone who’s going to paint it red, make a thousand cold calls. Don’t live in the minds of other, focus on your main goals, and remember no one looks sexy on their climb to the top.

4. Fall In love With Pain – While I was in Copenhagen I told an Italian man the secret to being happy in life was to fall in love with pain. Then you will not only be able to withstand the arduous journey to becoming the strongest version of yourself, but you’ll enjoy yourself along the way.

5. You Must Settle – In order to have what you want, you have to settle for a lot of things you might not want at that moment. I eat to settle on foods because having a great body is more important, I settle with not going out on as many as I used to, because standup is more important. Plan out what you’re willing to settle on in advance, that way you don’t feel conflicted about having to make sacrifices.

6. Excitement Is Shallow – I’ve traveled all over the world and met people from all walks of life along the way. The people who were just traveling for excitement for several months, all sounded the same. Chasing excitement as an end is redundant. Soon there are no more novel truths to discover.

7. Loneliness Is About You – I’m not lonely when I’m at the gym even though I’m training by myself, but I am lonely when I go to parties and I’m being a wall flower. Why? Because loneliness is about your engagement in the that moment. So if you’re feeling lonely, close your computer and go for a run, it will get you back into the moment.

8. Sacrifice Makes Things Mean Sometimes – I have performed stand up for 325 consecutive days, I’ve missed family gatherings, nights out with friends, dates, a trip to Brazil Argentina and Peru, but missing out on all of these things made my successes in standup mean so much more to me. So don’t look at standup as a sunk cost, but an opportunity to make the thing you are working on worth more to you.